Fantasy or Reality, What's Your Choice?

"Romance is in fantasy, not reality", Javed Akhtar explained the concept nicely in an event. No wonder I feel scattered and heavy after I come back from my imaginary world, because I do romanticise things, because reality is different, and it has nothing to do with the fantasy I lived for a while. 

Why We Dream About People?

Good dreams and daydreaming take us to another world, just as Studio Ghibli productions take their viewers into their universe. They have the power to impact us and leave a mark so strong that coming back to reality hits differently, leaving us feeling low until we get acquainted with the real world. Any type of moving on is hard, after all! 

I guess that's the mistake a lot of us make when we start talking to someone. We start daydreaming and imagining things. Be it conversations, situations, or life events. We create an alternate universe in our head with the person that makes us feel comfortable and cosy. The series After Life is the best example of what I am trying to say. It becomes difficult for Tony to move on and live a happy life after his wife dies due to cancer. He thinks he wants to die and doesn't want to live a life where Lisa, his wife, isn't there. It takes him a while to understand things. 

We all take our sweet time to understand things. The transition from fantasy to reality is baffling and gruesome, but life has its ways to bring us to itself. Fantasy has the power to almost make us believe everything it involves. Hence, the immediate reaction after waking up in reality is not at all pleasurable. 

The Reality Check

But we live in reality for most of our lives, and I am sorry to say, but delulu is not the solulu. There is no growth in fantasy, no challenges, no problems, and no base. And somehow we have to learn to break patterns. Sure, fantasy provides everything we want and dream about, but that's not the place we can live forever. Even Alice had to come back from Wonderland, and Christopher Robin had to leave Pooh and his friend behind.

Reality has no match with dreams and fantasy indeed, but it is more providing than the latter. Reality brings discomfort, sorrows, and pain. These emotions challenge us to look at the brighter side, become stronger versions of ourselves and accept things for what they are. It's the reality that gives us a 360-degree view of all human emotions, good and bad, negative and positive, up and down. 

The Real Difference

I know it is easy to be delusional and reside where things are dandy. You cannot live a life without negative emotions. It's like the comedian and actor Ricky Gervais says, "How arrogant are you to think that you deserve to go through life with no one ever saying anything that you don't agree with or like?" I mean, you just can't be entitled because you aren't!! 

No matter how hard life becomes, we have to ground ourselves in reality. Yes, fantasy can be an escape, a break from life, a break from a mundane lifestyle, a break from a painful breakup. But it cannot be reality, if you want to make your fantasy a reality, you either have to work hard or accept certain defeats to make the real world the place you have always dreamt of. 

Turn Fantasy into Your Life

If you are dreaming about creating a castle, start working hard. If you are dreaming about sharing your life with someone, either tell them your feelings or accept that things are over. If you are travelling the world in your head, it's time to save or invest to have a future where you can go to places. Dare to be yourself in your life. I won't say everything you dream is achievable, but dreams do come true. Sometimes we have to alter them a little by looking at them from a different angle, or we have to change the theme. Rest is totally up to us! 

Until we meet again, dream big! 

The Queen of Ramdon things 

XOXO