VOGUE Really? I Expected More.

We’re doing this now?

Having a boyfriend is… embarrassing?

We have officially reached the stage where the internet has outright pointed out that mentioning "my boyfriend" is a personality flaw. Suddenly, women in love are uncool, same as admitting you still post on Facebook check-ins!!!

I mean just, WOW!

For decades, we were taught to find meaning in partnership. We were told fairy tales, shown rom-coms, given ideas about the one, and rewarded for posting couple pictures. The world happily accepted it, but now the tables have turned. Mention him once and you’ll be muted!

From ‘goals’ to cringe

There was a time when #CoupleGoals ruled Instagram. When love quotes and matching airport fits used to get more likes than any actual achievement. Well, those days are gone. Today, women prefer creating mystery by posting cropped pictures, wine-clinking glasses, and blurred photo dumps. You can tell there’s a man in the frame without ever seeing him.

It almost feels like the whole gender has collectively decided to blur romance with filters. No faces, No names, Only vibes.

To be honest, I get it. We’re tired of being judged, jinxed, and mainly, boys turning out to be walking embarrassments right after the big reveal. So, we’ve adapted to quiet loving because loving hard burns us out.

The glow-up era

Yet this shift isn't just about romance, it's literally about evolution.

Women are levelling up almost everywhere! We are in therapy, healing childhood trauma. We are earning money, managing homes, taking care of families, holding down a job, and still showing up for our friends. We’re reading, journaling, meditating, unlearning, and building peace from scratch. Basically, we are upgrading!

We’ve built an entire universe that no longer revolves around one man. So when we do choose love, it’s for fullness, not desperation. That’s power and growth, right there.

The irony of cool girl culture

Here’s where things get messy because the internet doesn't know what to do with such headstrong and fulfilled women, the ones that are emotionally evolved and in love.

Showing affection has become outdated. Having a boyfriend is cringe. And talking about him is embarrassing.

It's one thing to look detached and act like you don't care. It surely is trendy to call men "the ick" and label every crush as a "delusion". But it’s another thing to call softness a weakness, as if wanting love makes you less evolved.

Healing doesn't mean shutting down and forgetting feminine energy, but learning how to let it out without losing yourself and the womanhood we are so proud of!

Love isn’t the problem, obsession is

I’m not saying your worth is measured by your relationship status. But between "never rely on a man" and "my boyfriend is my entire world", there is a balance.

You can have life goals, boundaries, therapy sessions, solo trips, and still want someone to hold you. You can be independent and in love at the same time. Posting him or not is a choice, but the point is, you get to choose from a place of peace and emotion, not pressure.

The new definition of having it all

An increasing number of women are embracing single hood, it isn't shameful any more! Neither is being taken. The flex is being whole without advertising your partner or narcissism.

Yes, we aren't waiting to be saved like the princess stories we were told, we are saving ourselves. We are doing a lot of things our mothers never had the mind to do. We are rewriting "having it all", and nope, it doesn't start with "he loves me". It starts with "I love myself".

So, hey VOGUE

Let me clear the air for you. Maybe... Having a boyfriend isn't embarrassing, we outgrew the idea as a personality add-on. We aren't boyfriend-girls any more. We are complete women with full lives, and if someone fits right into it, it is still welcomed, and we thrive in that too!

Final Verdict

Love isn't outdated. It's stupid pretending we don't want it only to look cool.

Love is still the bravest and most human thing we can do! And if you are calling it embarrassing, then maybe the world can use a little bit more of embarrassment.

Lots of love

The Queen of Random Things